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She is probably thinking she can convert you if she is with you long enough and is a good enough example. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from.
If I had one thing to add, mixed race marriages are quite similar. I was going to be having leftovers of everything; time, energy, etc.
To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy".